Okay, I think the blog is finally fixed. For a while I wasn’t able to make any new posts, and repairing it was mostly out of my hands. Here’s to hoping it’ll work from now on.
I posted these two articles already, but couldn’t announce it here. The second one is pretty quick.
Inviting yourself to social events
Is it okay to hang out with another guy one on one?
September 9, 2009
A few months ago I wrote a pretty short, basic article explaining why it’s important to directly practice your people skills. I just added a pretty big section to it on some ways you can get social experience. Check it out. The new section starts about a third of the way down:
How to practice your social skills
May 15, 2009
First a new article:
When People Say “How’s It Going?”, “What’s Up?” or “What’s New?”
And a semi-new one on small talk, that organizes what a few previous articles said about it:
Thoughts On The Point Of Small Talk
There was something else I wanted to include in this update but I think I’ll just get to it later. That’s it for the site tune up updates. There are lots of little clean ups I’m still going to make, but they’re not really worth announcing, just more minor organizing.
April 11, 2009
By request, I added a new section the article How Backpacking/Traveling Can Boost Your Social Skills on how to actually organize a trip. I tried to make it a quick, basic overview since this isn’t a travel site or anything, but it still went longer than I thought it would.
If you’re thinking about going on your first trip, check it out.
April 11, 2009
Here’s the third batch of updates. The first three articles are new, but mainly gather together a bunch of ideas that were previously scattered all over the place:
Loosen Up To Be More Socially Successful
Is Thinking You’re Better Than Other People Holding You Back Socially?
Reasons People Mistakenly Think They Don’t Like Something
(I’m not sure about the title for this one. If you read the article you’ll get what it’s about, but I can’t quite figure out a good wording for the concept without sounding accusatory. False, mistaken, faulty, they all sound bad and don’t totally capture everything… If you have any idea, feel free to drop me a line).
I also edited What To Do If You Can’t Relate To All The Shallow People Out There to be not be about six different concepts at once, and to focus just on ways people can seem more shallow than they are, and why “shallow” things aren’t all bad.
March 28, 2009
The second batch of updates is done. First a new article:
Some Ways People Are Mentally Lazy About Judging Others
And a sort of new article, to put my ideas about indirect improvement in one spot:
Indirectly Become More Socially Successful By Improving Yourself As A Person
I split up and revised my older article on the tricky issue of changing yourself. One thing I wanted to emphasize was how you don’t have totally overhaul your whole personality just to get better with people:
You Don’t Have To Totally Change And Sell Out To Have Social Success
Sometimes Changing Yourself Can Increase Your Social Success
And since the ideas in the articles above previously may have been scattered all through the site, often redundantly, I’ve gone through the site as a whole to help tidy it up. I’m not totally done on that count, but I should be once all the tune ups are done.
March 11, 2009
This is one of those updates that may not wow you if you’ve been following the site for a while, but which I think will help make it more useful for new readers.
I’ve been writing www.succeedsocially.com for about two and a half years. I’ve put up around 75 articles. At the time I wrote each article, I was focused mainly on whatever points I wanted to get across for that topic.
If you take the site as a whole though, it’s gotten a little messy as the articles have accumulated. Themes that should be more prominent are scattered all over the place. Some ideas get repeated too often. Some articles discuss too many things at once and would be better off split up.
I felt it was time to go through the entire site and give it a clean up to try to make it more organized and cohesive. This will take me a while, but I’ve grouped the changes I need to make into rough batches. I’ll update the site when I get a ‘batch’ done.
A new article, based on a question I get asked fairly often:
How Long Does It Take To Improve Your Social Skills?
Some of the material at the end is moved over from an older article called Overall Attitudes That Will Help You Improve Your People Skills. That one has had some new concepts added to it.
The importance of practicing gets its own article:
Directly Practice Your Social Skills To Improve Them
The idea of there being no magic shortcut gets it’s own article too:
There’s No Quick, Effortless Way To Improve Your Social Skills
The article My Take On Social Skills And How To Improve Them was really three things at once. The original is gone now. First, it was about why I created the site. That’s in its own article now:
Next it talks about what social skills are. Maybe I’ll write about that one day. Lastly, it gave some general principles for how to improve. That should be coming fairly soon.
I’m working on this site-wide overhaul straight through until it’s done. I’ll post the next batch of updates as soon as I can.
February 22, 2009
New article:
Some Things I’ve Noticed Now That I Have Better Social Skills
December 27, 2008
New article is up:
Dealing With Regrets Caused By Your Poor People Skills
September 7, 2008
Anyone who’s been following this site for a while knows I occasionally like to re-tool some of my older articles, hopefully to make them more useful. I’ve done it again to one of the first pieces of writing I put up here:
The biggest change is there are now two main sections. One talking about being more fun, and another on how to avoid being less fun.
August 20, 2008
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